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RobBase said:
Maybe it’s me. Ive never asked any of my friends or family members about their kids names until they were born. I just assumed it was something you didn’t talk about unless they bring it up first.
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What does knowing what someone is naming their fetus do anyway? Why do you need to know or care about this knowledge?
 
Flavortown Tebow said:
What does knowing what someone is naming their fetus do anyway? Why do you need to know or care about this knowledge?
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it's small talk.

what else are you going to talk to a pregnant woman about?
 
Flavortown Tebow said:
Everyone has to give a fuck about everyone else's lives.

Mostly to self-fellate that they are doing better than their "friends"
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Not a good look and the kids are doing it too. My daughter reacted with genuine excitement and happiness for her friend when her friend shouted off the things Santa had brought her. When my daughter showed her friend the hoverboard Santa brought her, her friend reacted with a short glance and an “I KNOW!” before running off. Didn’t give one shit at all. Only cared about what she got.
 
RobBase said:
Must be the social media era? Everyone just expects to know your private business.
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I ask the question so that I give the appearance of being normal. Some people like it when you express interest in their lives outside of work. Small talk ya know?

I really don't care.
 
ill said:
it's small talk.

what else are you going to talk to a woman about?
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Hard to believe you’re still single.
 
Gatorchip said:
I ask the question so that I give the appearance of being normal. Some people like it when you express interest in their lives outside of work. Small talk ya know?

I really don't care.
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There are absolutely people who enjoy this kind of popularity and attention.
 
RobBase said:
Not a good look and the kids are doing it too. My daughter reacted with genuine excitement and happiness for her friend when her friend shouted off the things Santa had brought her. When my daughter showed her friend the hoverboard Santa brought her, her friend reacted with a short glance and an “I KNOW!” before running off. Didn’t give one shit at all. Only cared about what she got.
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Yep.

Gotta use social media to "measure" yourself against your peers. Then get MADDDDD when they are doing better.

Thankfully, with a new president this will all change.
 
Flavortown Tebow said:
What does knowing what someone is naming their fetus do anyway? Why do you need to know or care about this knowledge?
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Like I said I think people just assume they’ll be fed the entirety of other people’s lives, and when they aren’t they straight up demand it.
 
ill said:
I don't think it is out of the ordinary. I think people are less inclined to keep it a secret these days.

It never made sense to me why people kept their future kids' names a secret until birth.
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1) Until a kid is born, there’s a sense of uneasiness about actually ending up with a viable birth

2) We didn’t find out the sex of the kid beforehand, so we didn’t call it by a name...just had a short list of both boys and girls names...and getting people’s opinions on it was not something I was intereted

3) For our 3rd, we didn’t have names chosen at all and made a decision after he was born.

4) You could change your mind on name.

5) People are assholes and give opinions when you tell them the name. Hey...no one asked you.

It’s not necessarily a secret all the time. But it’s really no one else’s business.
 
Flavortown Tebow said:
Yep.

Gotta use social media to "measure" yourself against your peers. Then get MADDDDD when they are doing better.

Thankfully, with a new president this will all change.
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Jeeps for everybody.
 
Gatorchip said:
I ask the question so that I give the appearance of being normal. Some people like it when you express interest in their lives outside of work. Small talk ya know?

I really don't care.
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I don't even bother with this. I'd rather be a dick than fake. It's why I have one response when interacting with people in the service industry and when I'm tossed a social formality curveball and my response doesn't fit the formality, I don't even get bashful.

"Hey Welcome to Grocery store, Rainy out there eh?"

Pretty good, how bout you?
 
RobBase said:
Not a good look and the kids are doing it too. My daughter reacted with genuine excitement and happiness for her friend when her friend shouted off the things Santa had brought her. When my daughter showed her friend the hoverboard Santa brought her, her friend reacted with a short glance and an “I KNOW!” before running off. Didn’t give one shit at all. Only cared about what she got.
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when I was a kid in the 80's I always wanted to hear about what my cousins got.

this is nothing new.
 
RobBase said:
There are absolutely people who enjoy this kind of popularity and attention.
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There was a woman at work who had a kid this past year. She was a shitty worker before her maternity leave, and rarely did much. After she got back, she said dumb shit like "if it was so important, why didn't people do it while I was out?"

Wasn't happy with her at all, and her boss didn't give a shit since we were closing.


But I kept asking to see pictures of her child and telling her how great he looks. This allowed me to get some work done where she was needed. The alternative would be zero progress.


Maybe people ask about your kid cause you're a shitty employee?
 
kobesgame said:
1) Until a kid is born, there’s a sense of uneasiness about actually ending up with a viable birth

2) We didn’t find out the sex of the kid beforehand, so we didn’t call it by a name...just had a short list of both boys and girls names...and getting people’s opinions on it was not something I was intereted

3) For our 3rd, we didn’t have names chosen at all and made a decision after he was born.

4) You could change your mind on name.

5) People are assholes and give opinions when you tell them the name. Hey...no one asked you.

It’s not necessarily a secret all the time. But it’s really no one else’s business.
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“Keep a secret”

It’s not a secret. But that says everything about the entitlement, the nosiness and the unapologetic intrusiveness of some people.
 
ill said:
it was a joke, Bob.

Flav doesn't know how to talk to people.
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Oh I’m joking too. Not hard to see why you’re still single, ReTodd.
 
kobesgame said:
1) Until a kid is born, there’s a sense of uneasiness about actually ending up with a viable birth

2) We didn’t find out the sex of the kid beforehand, so we didn’t call it by a name...just had a short list of both boys and girls names...and getting people’s opinions on it was not something I was intereted

3) For our 3rd, we didn’t have names chosen at all and made a decision after he was born.

4) You could change your mind on name.

5) People are assholes and give opinions when you tell them the name. Hey...no one asked you.

It’s not necessarily a secret all the time. But it’s really no one else’s business.
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I don't disagree with you much, but I don't see the reasoning here.

I feel like asking "have you settled on a name?" is not at all intrusive.
 
RobBase said:
“Keep a secret”

It’s not a secret. But that says everything about the entitlement, the nosiness and the unapologetic intrusiveness of some people.
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entitlement?

they are asking a simple question. No one is forcing you to tell them.

I also see nothing wrong with you lying to them about what you are going to name the kid. I think that is pretty funny to be honest.
 
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