Last Tuesday of September

Bender said:
the guy goes on vacations centered around breweries, the converse is she's asking him to give up one of his favorite things over her irrational outlook on it. what other behaviors, hobbies, or decisions is she going to suddenly think is not normal?
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This is true. I believe her outlook is somewhat irrational. Though some of my actions haven't helped change it. But yes.... This post.
ill said:
he can still do all that, but show a little moderation.

if she wants him to settle down with her and have kids, he is going to have to
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I believe moderation is being able to grab 1 beer from the fridge on a Thursday night because I feel like it. She thinks that's not normal. Most of my visits to breweries or drinks are in moderation.
Bender said:
the fact he has a large supply of beer tells me he does do it in moderation.

if i were to buy alcohol, there wouldn't be a supply of it growing .
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I have more of an issue of buying beer that lingers than buying it and drinking it.
ill said:
his Untappd says otherwise
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I would say 75% of my untapped check ins are flights, shared flights, and shared beers
 
ill said:
his Untappd says otherwise
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But I did acknowledge that untapped does not help overconsumption. So I probably will delete it.
 
Peter Gozintite said:
Seems like an incredible over simplification of things.
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to be fair GIF


It seems like she’s trying to make it a pretty simple choice.
 
kobesgame said:
I obviously don’t know the specifics of your drinking habits, but it seems like there has been a string of things that she’s flipping out about. If you have an issue with drinking, then you have to figure out what to do. If you don’t have a drinking issue, then she needs to chill.

What I can say is making unilateral decisions…either of you….is a terrible way to approach things. Doomed for failure. So be careful before you make house/marriage/kid decisions. You have to be on the same page before pulling the trigger on any of that.
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Peter Gozintite said:
It's about control. If she wins here, she'll win everywhere, forever.
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@gobucks0409 FWIW I wouldnt be so quick to jump to the conclusion that its about control. It could very well be about she thinks your drinking is self destructive behavior and she cares about you. She doesn’t want you to engage in self destructive behavior. If that’s what it is then it’s normal loving behavior. You’ve mentioned that you might have a problem with drinking. Do you? Are her concerns justified? If not… talk to her about it. If they are then re-evaluate your behavior not hers.
 
gobucks0409 said:
She talked about not wanting to have to care for an old man who destroyed his body and mind. So, I do think a part of it comes from caring. I just don't think think her concerns necessarily have a lot of merit.
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that doesn’t sound like control to me. That sounds like a difference of opinion. I know guys who drink every day, smoke cigarettes everyday, smoke pot every day, etc and they are perfectly fine. I know others who engage in those same behaviors and have had a myriad of health problems. You just never know what life throws your way. IMO it sounds like she’s scared. All emotions come down to one of two things: Love or fear. Sounds like her “trying to control you“ is based upon fear. That’s not uncommon. My guess is if you can get her over that fear the “control” of you will disappear as well.
 
gobucks0409 said:
I don't drink every day. I (usually) eat pretty well, and regularly exercise, and get bloodwork done every year.
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ask her why she is afraid of that happening. Then get blood work ups done, get a dr to tell you (and her) that you’re healthy, etc. Only you know if it’s a problem or not. Doesn’t sound like you think it is so just gotta get her there.
 
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