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The stepkids come home tonight. Sounds bad, but I didn't miss them that much. It was pretty nice not having them add to a mess or arguing with each other. Definitely revealed that they cause a lot of issues in the house when they're home. Now how to diplomatically tell them how it's going to be going forward or they can reside with their sperm donor without pissing my wife off.
 
The stepkids come home tonight. Sounds bad, but I didn't miss them that much. It was pretty nice not having them add to a mess or arguing with each other. Definitely revealed that they cause a lot of issues in the house when they're home. Now how to diplomatically tell them how it's going to be going forward or they can reside with their sperm donor without pissing my wife off.
That's walking a fine line
 
That's walking a fine line
Yes it is. Wife isn't enough of a disciplinarian as I am. She thinks I'm too strict but she isn't strict enough. I've had people say the same thing about them to me. They can tell a difference in them depending on whom they are with. The twins are lazy around the house. I'm trying to instill a work ethic in them but it's a process. The older twin is starting to get it but the younger is too much like her deadbeat sperm donor.
 
The stepkids come home tonight. Sounds bad, but I didn't miss them that much. It was pretty nice not having them add to a mess or arguing with each other. Definitely revealed that they cause a lot of issues in the house when they're home. Now how to diplomatically tell them how it's going to be going forward or they can reside with their sperm donor without pissing my wife off.

That's walking a fine line
Pete's right.

You need to get your ball and chain on board with you first. If the mayhem starts up again when the steps return, have a talk with the mrs and see if she recognized the difference when they were gone and see if the two of you can establish new boundaries for the kids.

I'd suggest approaching it from the position of boundaries for the kids, not just hers, all of them. You might not mean that, but the conversation will go a lot more smoothly and ultimately have the same outcome. Hopefully.

Finally, I'd also suggest stuffing your thumb into your wife's ass the next time you're pounding her doggystyle.

Best of luck, buddy.
 
Pete's right.

You need to get your ball and chain on board with you first. If the mayhem starts up again when the steps return, have a talk with the mrs and see if she recognized the difference when they were gone and see if the two of you can establish new boundaries for the kids.

I'd suggest approaching it from the position of boundaries for the kids, not just hers, all of them. You might not mean that, but the conversation will go a lot more smoothly and ultimately have the same outcome. Hopefully.

Finally, I'd also suggest stuffing your thumb into your wife's ass the next time you're pounding her doggystyle.

Best of luck, buddy.
My biggest thing is making them be accountable for their chores. I've told her that once each of them (step or ours together) graduate & go to college or move out, they are out for good. Yeah I will help here or there on small stuff and an occasional holiday break stay from college might be allowed but that's it. I'm not going to be like my aunts & uncles have been with my cousins & step cousins. The chores are everyday household skills they will need to learn.
 
The stepkids come home tonight. Sounds bad, but I didn't miss them that much. It was pretty nice not having them add to a mess or arguing with each other. Definitely revealed that they cause a lot of issues in the house when they're home. Now how to diplomatically tell them how it's going to be going forward or they can reside with their sperm donor without pissing my wife off.
Been there man. Wife's son 100% and daugther off and on have been staying with us. Her daugther just graduated from college and rather than looking for a job decided to follow her BF who plays minor league baseball all summer. Against our better judgement we let them stay with us last winter, which was very stressful for everyone particularly my wife. We made it clear that was a one time deal and that after this season they would need to make arrangements for their own place to live. Her daugther is an emotional trainwreck in addition to being a slob and it pisses my wife off with the messes she leaves. When she was home for a week earlier this summer she acted like a spoiled brat and I flat out told her that while she is welcome to visit we will not be putting up with that crap anymore and she needs to star packing up some things because our house is no longer her convenient place to crash when she gets into trouble. Wife was reluctant to tell her that because she has mom guilt but as I pointed out, remember how she treats you when she is here. That aside I will play "man of the house" and tell her so its coming from me.

Her son, who will be turning 21 in a few months, doesn't seem to get he is an adult so he will be told after the first of the year that he better have a plan because his time with us is running out.
 
Yes it is. Wife isn't enough of a disciplinarian as I am. She thinks I'm too strict but she isn't strict enough. I've had people say the same thing about them to me. They can tell a difference in them depending on whom they are with. The twins are lazy around the house. I'm trying to instill a work ethic in them but it's a process. The older twin is starting to get it but the younger is too much like her deadbeat sperm donor.
what are the ages if I may ask?
 
Twins will be 13 in December and stepson will be 11 in December. Still time to get them on track but it will go quickly.
There is a balance with parenting adult children. Yes, you want to be supportive and help them when needed but avoid enabling
 
Stepson had open house today as school starts Thursday. Can tell the school is awful as he didn't pass the state reading test in any category for last year. He's in the advanced category for math. This is at least 4 years where my wife & I have been on the school that he needs more than what they're doing. They refuse to acknowledge he has a learning disability and just have a basic IEP. He somehow passed (barely) the one they care about. Told the wife that a discussion will be made with his sperm donor. If he isn't adequate this year, we are threatening the school & his sperm donor that we are pulling him out. He will go where our kids together attend. I know he will get the help in school he needs. We are looking for affordable tutoring outside as well.
 
Had our best practice tonight since camp opened. We had 6 different kids get into the end zone during a 35 min scrimmage. Blocking was on point all night. Weapons in every direction.
 
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