I was born w a bad heart and had open heart surgery at 1. Lived a normal life until 31. Transplant at 34. So I had my whole life to prepare for it.
A guy like her bf, a gym guy, gets sick, it can be devastating. When I had my transplant I was in there w 2 other guys around my age. One guy was getting his 2nd transplant 8 years after his first one. Former Army Ranger. Was no problem for him. Crushed it. This other guy gave up from the get. Laid in bed high on pain killers all day every day as me and this other guy were in rehab 3 times a day, doing laps around the floor etc.
Turmoil brings out the best in some and flattens others. No saying how someone is going to deal w it.