I've been to Honolulu and it was like being in Los Angeles. Not my cup of tea, but it seems the resort is like an hour away from honolulu so I thought it might have more of that Maui vibe. Not as crowded and city-like.

Maybe not.
I doubt we will island hop. I hate flying, and just getting there will be enough travelling for all of us. Really just looking for a lazy vacation. I mean, we'll do some shit, but also wanna vedge pretty hard on the beach.
My daughter is a complete war nerd, so we'll prolly have to do Pearl Harbor, but other than that, we wouldn't spend any time in the city area.
We're looking at a villa, so maybe we can grocery shop and do some cheap eating that way?